Sorry but not sorry.

November 26, 2013

November 25, 2013

There are not many things I’m sorry about in life, but recently I’ve been feeling a deep sense of sadness within me. After being blocked on Facebook and reading the Yahoo article explaining the ban, I feel completely misunderstood. While I speak strongly about making one’s health a priority, the very last thing I intended to express was any level of shame. No one should be ashamed of who they are, at the same time, in order to desire something greater, you have to –at some level – be uncomfortable with where you are at. When we normalize being unhealthy we create complacency to positively change.

In our fast-paced world of news media, it’s easier to categorize someone as a ‘fat-shamer’, a ‘hater’ or even a ‘bully’, without understanding the full story.  Somewhere in this social media frenzy, I have been called all of these names after using a popular catchphrase on a motivational fitness poster and now for my vent on our obesity crisis in America. I understand the deeper issues because I grew up with it. I witnessed the abuse of prescription pills that helped alleviate symptoms but didn’t provide the cure that living a healthy lifestyle would’ve done. I experienced a hateful relationship with food that triggered several years struggling with Bulimia. I sensed people creating environments filled with comfortable people and comfortable personal expectations that encouraged their poor habits.

I feel a lot of pain.

I felt it when I tearfully prayed my rosary while driving to the hospital because my mom just had a heart attack following her kidney surgery. I felt it when I saw people lose their legs and eyesight because of Diabetes. I felt it when my parents weren’t present on the day of my wedding.

November 27th is our wedding anniversary. Unlike many brides, I don’t like reflecting back at that life moment. All I remember was the morning phone call stating my mother was in the ICU for an infection and my father would walk me down the aisle, but would leave soon after to be by her side. Besides feeling emotionally lost the entire evening, a part of me felt resentful, because whether realized or not, I felt these unfortunate circumstances could’ve been prevented if she lived a healthier lifestyle. Any personal challenge, especially in dealing with health – takes its toll on the entire unit, not just the person itself.

Many put off what is important for tomorrow because of the short-term stressful or satisfying moments they experience today. Maybe one doesn’t feel their weight and unhealthy habits are taking a toll now, but it’s not a matter of ‘if’ but ‘when’ your organs, bones and overall body succumb to the additional pressure you are applying to it. Maybe you won’t be able to run with your children. Maybe you will miss out on special events. Maybe you might not witness your child’s wedding day…

I don’t want any child to cry over their parent’s hospital bed hoping they will wake up.
Because that’s what I’ve done.

maria kang wedding day
I was caught off guard when my new father-in-law offered to dance
with me to “In my Life” by the Beatles, a song I chose for my first dance
with my father. It was the hardest moment of the night. Up until that
point I tried to keep it together but I cried so much wishing my father
was present and that my mother was healthy.

wedding

I get choked up every time I see this picture of my youngest sister, the baby  of
the family, Angeline. Obesity effects a family, not just the person.

wedding1
This was our first moment as husband and wife. Thank you David Casler
for being my rock despite my big mouth and unwavering attitude.

561 Comments

  • Reply Georgie November 26, 2013 at 1:48 am

    Maria, you are an amazing person.
    This is exactly what I am trying to fix with myself and my children. My obesity does not affect much at this point as I am in good health and we actually exercise and play a lot together. I know I likely will not remain so lucky. It’s been a little less than a year and a half since I began my fight towards my new self. It certainly has not been easy, but you are such a huge inspiration to keep me moving. Thank you.

  • Reply Michael Vereneau November 26, 2013 at 1:51 am

    Maria, there is not need for you to say your sorry. I am way over weight and I am trying to lose. I check your FB for updates and when I find your book, I am going to be it. I been off the fats, low carbs. and now I eat very little or no carbs. and I still can’t seem to shake it. I have been taken Garcinia Cambogia and I did lose about 4 lbs. I do have heart propblems, diabebte and othe health problem and taken about 6 pills a days. I support you in everything you are doing, you don’t have to say your sorry to nobody, you are helping people. God Bless you and your family.

  • Reply Jess November 26, 2013 at 1:53 am

    Here’s the thing, Maria. You stand for something. You take a strong stance, at that. And of course you are going to get backlash, but don’t let that stop you. Like you said, for people to change, they must be uncomfortable. You are hitting nerves within people. But for a good reason. Your posts sting me, but not because I am mad at you, but because you are RIGHT. Stand strong, momma.

  • Reply Karine Frigon November 26, 2013 at 1:54 am

    Thanks for that. For many reasons. Keep up the good work. People don’t feel comfortable with what you’re saying not because of you but because of what they feel inside of them. Love to you and your family.

  • Reply Rachel Tanola November 26, 2013 at 1:54 am

    I fully understand your pain while reading this post on Facebook as a mother of two i can say that i am living a ” Unhealthy Life style ” as a chain smoker my mother is also a chain smoker ..before i told my self i would never do it but eventually without noticing it I’m a heavy smoker now..:( .. and how I wish i could stop it now .. Just want you to know that because of you and your story I was moved and looking at my children I don’t want them to see me in an Hospital bed or miss anything about them… that’s all thanks again ..God Bless you and your Family always..

  • Reply Shelly H. November 26, 2013 at 2:00 am

    You are an inspiration! THANK YOU for taking a stand and not backing down!

  • Reply Kris November 26, 2013 at 2:03 am

    I am so sorry you have had this happen, so much misunderstanding and so many people willing to jump to negative conclusions. I agree with you, and as someone who works around many people who lead unhealthy lives, it is very frustrating to see that the answer to health lies within but so many are not able to hear it.

    Keep on keeping on!!!

  • Reply Amber November 26, 2013 at 2:10 am

    You have obviously made a positive difference in at least one person’s life & that is more than many can say. So, thank you! May God bless you for caring & trying to make a difference, Maria Kang! 🙂

  • Reply Melanie November 26, 2013 at 2:11 am

    Hi Maria,
    I am someone who never writes people like this but to see your pain because you made a choice to change your life is not what God ever intended for you or peoples lives in general I believe that you making that change was what He wanted to cause others to see that you can live if you are undisciplined in all areas but still want success you showed women that discipline can change your life and God blessed that. use this heart ache to grow , to grow closer to God, and to make your drive to help that much stronger you are amazing and you have inspired this prior military, stay at home mom to get disciplined and get the life God wants for my life and the life of my husband and children.so just plain Thank you don’t give in to those who are afraid of how amazing you are. God made you and that’s all that matters. God bless

  • Reply stephen blair November 26, 2013 at 2:22 am

    I heard you were upset. Focus on the many of us who like you and agree with what you’ve said and not some people who may have been confused about what you were meant to have done, or were offended or jealous.

  • Reply Sarah November 26, 2013 at 2:34 am

    I often find myself wishing my mother had taken better care of her health so that she might still be here today. She was an alcoholic for over ten years and a chain smoker almost her entire life before she died at age 52, leaving behind six children. Addictions destroy families. I am dedicated to fitness (read: lifting weights and eating properly) after losing 120 pounds, and just like you commit to eating right and exercising because of your mom’s problems, I don’t drink or smoke because of my mom’s. It’s not about guilt, it’s about setting a positive example and sticking to your guns in a world that is sadly complacent about taking care of itself. I don’t think we are designed biologically to be hyper-vigilant about what we eat and how often we move, but we have the information now that is telling us that the reality of modern life is such that we must become vigilant or risk life-long chronic illness and young death because we didn’t educate ourselves.

  • Reply Xinia November 26, 2013 at 2:40 am

    Don’t listen to this crazy…sick unhappy people…they are lazy people who just look for an excuse to excuse his/her fatness….U r an inspiration n example!!!!! those who complaint are people with not selfesteem!!!!! don’t worried for those….U rock!!!!!!

  • Reply Tom November 26, 2013 at 2:49 am

    Don’t apologize to anyone. I lost 85# seven years ago without surgery or medicine. It isn’t easy to kick a food addiction, but it is possible. Do we see ads celebrating smokers, or alcoholics, or drug addicts, or wife abusers, who say “this is just the way I am, I can’t change it, so I accept it and so should you?” No! I will not accept people who are obese and want me to say that they’re fine. They are sick and need to take ownership of their problems. I did, sounds like you did, and we’re not apologizing anymore.

  • Reply Chris November 26, 2013 at 2:53 am

    It’s unfortunate you choose to blame others instead of being uplifting and encouraging. Yes, sometimes it is their fault, as it appears to have been in your family. But, many very healthy, slim people have heart attacks and problems typically associated with obesity. Don’t blame those people.

  • Reply Sarah November 26, 2013 at 3:07 am

    I don’t think you need to apologize to anyone! Keep wing an amazing role model to not just your children but many other sane people around the world! I enjoy all your post!! You motivate me and for tht I thank you!!! Xo

  • Reply giselle prianelli November 26, 2013 at 3:09 am

    You shouldn’t have to apologized. It isn’t your fault if people are fat. If you felt that you need to express whatever it’s in your mind as long as it’s not threatening any living creatures then be it. Most fat people are so sensitive even if they know they’re fat. Oh wait that’s everyone with issues. Sorry for your mother. Keep posting and let others be motivated by your determination.

  • Reply reba November 26, 2013 at 3:58 am

    As a fatty I really like what you have to say Maria. You not only have nothing to apologise for, but you need to keep saying what you are saying until everyone, especially mothers, recognise that they owe it to themselves & their kids to be a good weight for their height, to eat well, live well. To really LIVE life rather than exist from one dirty nappy to the next.

    Your feelings about what it was like to grow up with a mother who didn’t look after herself really struck a cord with me. Our daughter sees a Mum who exercises reasonably regularly & eats well as I tend to eat mostly with her – and there is no way she gets to eat the rubbish I eat when she is at school! So I am actually quite healthy. I have great vitamin levels, good (not great) blood pressure, low cholesterol & no hint of diabetes. It seems I know how to make sure I get enough good food into me despite eating a whole heap of crap. But all that aside I am just too heavy for my frame which makes it more uncomfortable in the heat & it means I cannot move as freely as I like. I’m not talking morbid obese btw, just too big for someone who was a long distance runner.

    And unlike many overweight people, I wasn’t like this growing up & I actually do know way better – as runner & competitive sportsperson (basketball & netball) I have been fortunate to have always been around athletes, people who really know their stuff so despite growing up with parents who were a little overweight (but still very active – biking, tramping & yachting) I always ate well, always done a heap of exercise, never had weight or body issues…which brings me to the other point you have raised previously…..having the passion to want something more; feeling a little uncomfortable with the status quo. Unfortunately I haven’t had either! The desire to really change has been hard as I am kind of happy in my own skin.

    As to why I went from being very fit & healthy to not – it was a combination of arrogance (didn’t think I could ever put on weight so ate the same after a severe knee injury greatly reduced my running for about 18 months) and then post natal depression. As I said on the other post the weight started to pile on (before the meds) as sleep quality went downhill & fatigue set in – despite doing 20 hours exercise a week! Exercise became a struggle & bad habits crept in. Meds helped to sort me out then I incorporated lifestyle changes, but it has been a long hard journey – 3 years – to regain a normal outlook & the bad habits are really hard to change.

    But habits are just that so I know one step at a time, one bad habit replaced by good at a time I will get back the old me. I may not be able to getting into the kind of running I was used to, but I know I can be within the right weight range again for my frame & height, that I can live a more full & happy life which will make me a better woman, wife & mother.

    So I say kudos to you & everything you stand for. I wish there were more ‘real’ women like you out there – it seems the world is at war with extremes re overweight women & the super skinny celebs.

    We need more media to start focusing on real women in a real way I think your message is fantastic step towards that! You have every right to feel cheated re your mother’s poor health & how that impacted you.

    This alone should be a warning to all us fat mums out there that what we do, the choices we make can have massive consequences for our kids. I take my parenting very seriously & that includes the message I am sending our daughter re body image issues. While I want her to know & accept that we all come in different shapes & sizes, I also want to know the difference between healthy lifestyles & no – whether fat or skinny (which is skinny fat).

    Facebook is stupid, but luckily the internet is bigger than some egotistical young nerd! Ha! 🙂

  • Reply David November 26, 2013 at 4:06 am

    I respect you for your truthfulness and courage. You are an inspiration.

  • Reply Caren November 26, 2013 at 4:54 am

    I’m a latecomer to all this controversy over your picture but I have to say that I think much of this hatred is projection. The proliferation of self-image issues is huge in this country, so to see a woman in shape after 3 kids is a stark reminder to many that they are falling short of their own physical potential.

    I’m not a mom, and I’m in really good shape, so your picture doesn’t evoke any such emotion for me, so I can’t sympathize with the women that have reacted so strongly to all of this. I will say however, that you should use this controversy to your advantage. I don’t say that maliciously, but I feel like if you have to deal with all this backlash, you should at least gain something from it.

    It will all be forgotten soon enough in this blink-of-an-eye internet culture.

    Enjoy your moment of fame.

    PS….I’m sorry about your parents not being at your wedding. I had the same situation (both were dead by the time I married), so I know how it feels. It sucks.

    xo

    • Reply Jacquie November 27, 2013 at 2:05 am

      We are not jealous of Maria. I read dozens blogs by women who have children and are very fit and healthy. Some have lost a lot of weight, some were always thin. Some blog only about exercise and food, others blog about everything but exercise and food. They are inspiring, amazing women. Maria is not, if she has an inspiring message it is not getting through.

      • Reply Amy November 30, 2013 at 5:57 am

        I disagree. I find Maria really inspirational. 😀

  • Reply Trevor November 26, 2013 at 4:56 am

    Stay strong Maria. I know you must feel hurt by all the people that have called you names. But the friends and family in your life know who you really are. You are a strong and caring woman. I don’t think people understand how difficult it is to express some of their most emotional and painful moments in life to total strangers and not be acknowledged for how difficult that must be. I admire your strength and openness. You are not alone. Many people have gone thorough a emotionally painful experience in life. However, your story because you have chosen to share it with us gives us strength. So stay strong Maria, Your strength lifts us all. And have a Happy Anniversary with your boys. Love knows no boundaries whether your husband is near or far.

  • Reply Katee November 26, 2013 at 5:15 am

    Maria you have been an inspiration for all ladies. You’re not a bully, not a fat- shamer and not a hater. Your bravery and passion for this topic simply opens up a perspective on a lifestyle many don’t understand…

    I am a female in my early 20s. Been active all my life. I eat healthy: I drink water when others go for coffee, choose fruits over junk food, no fastfood, no alcohol. At 5’4 and approx. 140lb my entire university life, I am confident and satisfied with my body image. While in univ., I was more active and healthy than the avg student… I would be at the gym twice a week, but in comparison to my younger years I very inactive as I sat around a lot (to focus on studies). I was unhappy with my lifestyle. In Jan.2013 I started going to the gym around 4-6 times a week. For you to gauge my fitness/hard work at the gym… a random goal I set for myself was to be able to do 10pullups by Dec2013 (at the time I couldn’t even do 1, I can now do 8)

    Acquiring a strong physique and eating healthy is part of my LIFESTYLE. As I live my lifestyle I find it difficult to imagine how someone can allow themselves to be “fat”, how can someone eat fries/ drink pop without the sense of guilt? The biology of our bodies are meant to be kept active, how can someone hurt themselves by being inactive? My perspective of not being able to understand the lifestyle of what I deem to be ”unhealthy and unfit” is probably similar to how someone cannot understand how one can be so “healthy” and “fit”.

    Here is my vent to those who have been arguing against you:
    Contrary to what many of your critical readers would say, going to the gym and eating right does NOT define a person as a fitness/healthy ADDICT. In comparison, would not caring about your health and fitness label you as a FAT-ADDICT? Would supporting a bigger body image define you as a skinny-shamer/ a hater of good health/ a bully against the fit and strong?

    So to those who have been calling Maria a bully and a hater, pause for a minute and think.
    But it’s not just media and its images that tells us what’s healthy. Listen to your bodies, they’re usually pretty good at giving you signs if there’s anything wrong.

  • Reply Marlene November 26, 2013 at 7:11 am

    Maria,

    I see that you are very passionate about health and I have to say that I am also that way. It is hard for me to understand why someone would want to live their life in an unhealthy way. I focus my life on health and nutrition and helping others along the way. You happen to be someone that I liked on facebook because when I saw your picture I thought how wonderful! Another person who is passionate and has no excuses in life! As I got updates from you I realized that you are feeding into the negativity! You keep apologizing and for what? I don’t understand why you have to keep feeding into what others are saying about you. I remember being in a time in my life where I was misunderstood and there was nothing I could do to prove who I was. I continued to try to explain myself but the more I did that the farther down the hole I went. I feel that maybe you are at a point such as this. You know that you didn’t mean to come across a certain way but you did come across that way to many people and the more you explain the more people get angry. I have other fitness people on my Facebook. They get all kinds of negative comments and they choose to ignore them and continue to put out positive statements. The people who like them like them and the people who don’t like them don’t like them. You do not need to keep explaining who you are! You know exactly who you are and you stand for something! Feeding into this negativity is making you seem like a negative person. I no longer find you inspiring because of this. When you post something and it goes viral of course you are going to get positive ad negative statements. There is nothing you can do to change this.

  • Reply Bigdollsboudoir November 26, 2013 at 10:49 am

    I live in France!! and i think that if you were here, you will treated like a hero!!!

  • Reply Vee November 26, 2013 at 11:39 am

    Please tell me you are not the mom who posed with her kids as a role model for moms everywhere? Did I miss that?? FB blocked you? I remember the initial post and all the hoopla, but I seem to have missed the rest. Wow – unbelievable. Rock on girl..

  • Reply Aigul November 26, 2013 at 12:23 pm

    H A P P Y B I R T H D A Y, M A R I A ! ! ! Keep encouraging your readers and THANK YOU! 🙂

  • Reply Michelle November 26, 2013 at 1:27 pm

    You are an incredible woman who inspires me constantly to become better, to appreciate more, to love more and take nothing for granted. I really believe that those things that have been robbed of you in life will be restored! Just keep doing what you’re doing!

  • Reply Lilian November 26, 2013 at 3:05 pm

    “When we normalize being unhealthy we create complacency to positively change.”

    Don’t apologize! You are speaking the truth that nobody wants to hear but everyone could benefit from. This world needs to change, and only the power of positive forces like yourself can make that happen! Stay strong. Stay mighty! Peace and love. (and Happy Birthday!)

  • Reply Adrienne November 26, 2013 at 3:56 pm

    Keep fighting the good fight! I ditto everything you have to say. I’m a mother of four boys, 5’6″, and 125 lbs, and I love to work out and stay healthy. We Americans live such an unhealthy lifestyle that society had created and it is literally killing us. God bless 🙂

  • Reply Stephanie November 26, 2013 at 4:19 pm

    If your not sorry don’t apologize, because that makes your “sorry” a lie.
    I am a mother of 4. I have lived a healthy life. Always working out & love to eat healthy, but hated my body because people like you. I have never been the Ideal size, dispite my hard work & dedication. I spent so much time crying & praying for god to help me.
    In 2006 I was diagnosed with a illness that limits me, & now I am heavier than I ever have been. The biggest thing that has changed (other than my dress size) is my love for myself . I am sexy, I am strong, I love my self, & I accept my self for the first time ever. How dare ANY BODY try to make me feel ashamed for loving who & what I am. If I choose to flaunt my BBW curves I will with out shame. I have every right to be proud of my body the same way you are proud of your body.

  • Reply Robyn November 26, 2013 at 4:58 pm

    It seems as if Filipinos have just accepted that at some point in their life, they’re going to get diabetes. Thanks you for having the strength and courage to speak up. Keep speaking the truth. Keep being banned. The truth-seekers are here for you, will follow you, and will support you. We need your voice.

  • Reply Penel November 26, 2013 at 5:36 pm

    Maria, you have just lost all my respect for you.

    Maybe it’s the way you tried to make your point..
    Maybe you could have ‘held back your fingers’ before you lashed out..
    Maybe you should have put yourself into the shoes of others of all body shapes and sizes..

    Whatever it is, I guess you need to learn the hard way.
    Will never be back at your blog or your FB page again.

    • Reply Justin November 26, 2013 at 6:40 pm

      I’m guessing you’re grotesquely overweight. Get a mirror and use it. Deal with the real issue.

      • Reply Julie B. November 26, 2013 at 10:20 pm

        And I’m guessing you’re hung like a roll of Certs.

      • Reply Elizabeth November 27, 2013 at 1:46 am

        See this Maria, this guy Justin? He’s the kind of personality that is supporting you. When you are connecting with people like that than you should truly understand the kind of message you are actually sending out. Justin is a perfect example of the way you come across.

    • Reply Mandi November 26, 2013 at 6:55 pm

      I have to say that I feel that you were robbed. I read what they banned you for from Facebook and I have seen much worse than that. I almost feel that you are a victim of being fit shamed or because you look one way, then you must be saying everyone needs to look this way when really your message was one of fitness and health. Yes women of all sizes are beautiful, but that doesn’t mean they are healthy, and it is nothing that they wouldn’t hear from a doctor, but because it came from you, then you must be prejudice. I agree a !00% with what you are saying. Americans have complacent in their unhealthy lifestyles and essentially we have lost balance. From working to hard, eating to much, smoking or drinking, everything is in excess and healthy ways of life is to find balance and health in all areas: mind, body and soul. This is essential. So many people just want to avoid the issue and find the fastest and easiest ways to avoid themselves in the mirror. I know this as someone who has had and beat an addiction and has had to make some very hard choices and come to some realities about herself in order to do so. So when you hear all the negative feedback, just ignore the fit-haters.

  • Reply surferguy November 26, 2013 at 5:46 pm

    You threw a gauntlet with the “What’s your excuse?” line. You are also a model (as evidenced by your modeling pics and this site in general). I can dig, and get behind your reason for doing what you do (sorry for your wedding day, I can imagine what you were going though), but when the general public has no idea of your motivation, all they see is self-aggrandizement. The internet is place where everyone has a voice and an opinion. Sadly those who take to giving their opinions are usually folks who are not very nice in real life either. Also there really are people who just don’t have the time, money, knowledge, motivation or care about how to be as fit as you. I’m sorry you feel like you got thrown into a meat grinder, but when you shout “look at me!!!” you will get attention. And not all of it is good. Its why I have always said; “Rich and famous? No thanks, I’ll just take the money.”

  • Reply Justin November 26, 2013 at 6:38 pm

    I just came here to say I support you. Obesity is out of control and the level of acceptance it receives is disgusting to be honest. The political correctness in this country has began to flirt with interfering in our constitutional rights.

    Everyone that is offended, stop following her. Stop looking at her pictures. And for love of all that is good, SHUT THE HELL UP. Your double standard is appalling. You have her posts and profile pulled down because you don’t like what she posts. Well, no one likes anything you’ve had to say since the “what’s your excuse?” picture posted and you’re still posting. Stop. Let’s all be honest with each other….she couldn’t have offended you if you didn’t let her. And the REAL reason she offended you is because of your jealousy. Stop with the “I love the way I am” bullshit, because you don’t love the way you are. And it’s clear you don’t. If you did, we wouldn’t be having this issue.

    • Reply Julie B. November 26, 2013 at 10:18 pm

      Wow. OK. Whatever you say, big man.

      For the record– she was NOT banned from Facebook. She was banned from someone’s Facebook page for intruding. She was also banned from the person’s blog as well. And please don’t presume anyone is jealous– I sure as hell am not. See, I LIVED her “lifestyle” for years. And know what I got? Arthritis in my back, neck, and knees and ongoing eating disorders that I struggle with to this day.

      Oh, and go fuck yourself.

      • Reply Kathy November 27, 2013 at 1:17 am

        I think the last comment is the most worthy, Julie. It made me laugh out loud. Though I try to keep my own language clean, sometimes a big fat f-bomb is just what’s needed.

    • Reply Gerry November 27, 2013 at 9:01 pm

      There’s no double standard. We all have just as much right to spew bile as Ms. Kang. She hates unhealthy bodies, I hate unhealthy thinking, unhealthy attitudes, unhealthy society. Ms. Kang’s lack of love and understanding for her fellow human beings, the attitude that there is only one correct way to live one’s life, and the society that pressures people until they develop mental illnesses like bulimia connected to their body image: those things are FAR more unhealthy than a few pounds around the midsection. People like you are the product of people like Ms. Kang: she’s normalizing HATE. That’s sick, plain and simple.

  • Reply Linda November 26, 2013 at 6:49 pm

    If people are talking about you that means you are doing something right. I am not in a healthy weight or have the best healthy habits. But that does not mean that I will dislike because you had the disciplined that I lacked of. So you keep your head high and let the talkers do the talk while you do the walk. Best wishes and blessings!

    • Reply Lola B. November 27, 2013 at 5:24 am

      Amen, Linda! I agree 100%! It is the discipline that most people lacks to change their circumstances in this world. I am probably 20-30 pounds overweight and I’m going to put on my big girl panties and admit that. If anyone feels convicted of their weight and health issues when reading someone’s personal opinions…that conviction comes from a place of unhappiness and discontent with oneself. I am unhappy that I have lacked the discipline…I agree that it is entirely up to me to change that! I feel inspired by Maria and wasn’t offended by her post. 🙂

  • Reply Kari November 26, 2013 at 7:06 pm

    Maria you are right about the obesity issue!

    I have a 16 year old cousin that sits on the computer all day playing video games. He became obese and had gastral bypass surgery to lose the weight. At 16!!! Has he lost it a year later. About 75 lbs., but not since. Why? his mother keeps giving him sugary drinks and does not thing to promote him going outside and excercising.

    It drives me crazy to see his life waste away. Keep up the message to get off our butts and get healthy!

  • Reply Joe Jiko November 26, 2013 at 7:21 pm

    Get on Twitter and Google+. They won’t ban or sensor you there.

  • Reply nikki November 26, 2013 at 8:14 pm

    For someone who hates excuses so much, you sure do love to blame everything on your dead mama. I hesitated to comment because I know it will only fuel your pity party, but somebody has to say and after all, despite your greatest efforts to make me feel otherwise, I am somebody. You can whine and cry that fat people are unhealthy all you want, but you have no medical background to validate those claims and even if you did, you are not entitled to demand health, fitness, or thinness from anybody. Live your own miserable life, stop bitching every time someone stands up to you for being the bully that you are, stop blaming those offended for your own ignorance and for the love of all things holy, enough with the pity party. Get over yourself and grow up!

    • Reply mnar November 27, 2013 at 4:36 am

      For sure you haven’t done your research on how obesity affects your health. How obesity increase heart problems, the percentage of having diabetes, skeletal problems such as arthritis, respiratory problems, pancreas and liver disease, kidney problems. Many obese people can’t stop until they reach the point in which they even need help to tie their shoes, some of them do break the chain and change to a healthier lifestyle which in some cases makes them feel better, happier, more energetic and yes healthier.

      • Reply nikki November 30, 2013 at 8:14 pm

        What’s your point? One’s size and health status does not make them less deserving of respect, being a self-righteous, entitled, bully does.

  • Reply KS November 26, 2013 at 8:45 pm

    Someone should put a muzzle on you. Wow. Just shut up, you’re not helping anyone, just making yourself look like an even bigger fool. Not everyone needs a platform, and the proof is in the (very sugary) pudding here. Maybe it’s not what you say, but how you say it, and you just come across as a jerk. Really sad, considering you have a decent message, but until you can figure out how to be compassionate, hush.

  • Reply Amanda November 26, 2013 at 9:04 pm

    This is the first time I have read your blog but your statements make me want to read more. I read some of the comments and I am sorry that some people are such jerks. First, a blog is your platform to say what you want. You are not shoving your ideas down anyone’s throat. If they don’t care to read, they can simply not read. Second, you are so right. Unhealthy family members affect everyone around them in a negative way. Some people cannot help there condition, but lifestyle diseases are completely avoidable and we should hold people accountable for their choices. Fat makes you unhealthy and you don’t need a medical degree to recognize it, just your eyes. And your mother should be ashamed of not taking care of herself because she had daughters to be a role model for. When you make a choice to be a mother, you make the choice to live for another being, not just yourself. Good job being brutally honest with yourself and your readers.
    That being said, if you plan to continue to do so, you need a thick skin and don’t apologize, even in a “sorry but I’m not sorry way.” People will take offense to what you say whenever you are honest, that is why so many people lie to themselves and everyone around them. My advice, either accept their ire or stop talking.

  • Reply Otto November 26, 2013 at 10:35 pm

    C’mon, you are a judgemental fool who thinks we are dumb enough to think your hate filled rant is meant as inspiration. Maybe your parents didnt take care of themselves because they didnt want to spoend too much time with your self centered insulting self? You are sick and mean and derve whatever negative backlash is sent your way. You embody the stereotype of cold hearted asians thinking they are superior to others. GET A LIFE LOSER!

    • Reply Leslie November 26, 2013 at 10:46 pm

      Your comment is beyond nasty. Bringing her parents up to her is way out of line.

      • Reply Elizabeth November 27, 2013 at 1:43 am

        Oh, that kind of nasty comment is NOT ok, but shaming even slightly over weight people is just fine?? lol! Sorry but I lost all my sympathy for Maria when she put out a message of shame and hate rather than one of change and support. If she didn’t want her life to be picked apart than she shouldn’t have picked apart others. Maria comes across as angry and very much a mean girl. She said she struggled with her weight…maybe she should have struggled with her personality and conscience first. She’s the one who sent the shots out and basically attacked anyone who didn’t conform to her idea of ideal. If you can’t take it, don’t dish it out.

        • Reply Leslie November 27, 2013 at 2:24 am

          An intelligent person can discuss their concerns without being that nasty. I didn’t agree with her post either, however, I would never verbally abuse a person, and certainly not use her family against her. Two wrongs don’t make a right. Instead of sympathy, just employ decency and a respectful vocabulary. If you want get your point across, try being less angry and not reacting emotionally or doing that which you are accusing her of. Otherwise you won’t be taken seriously.

  • Reply Elizabeth November 26, 2013 at 11:02 pm

    I am so glad Facebook sanctioned you for what you said and if you wish to be better understood, than trying saying what you mean (though I think fat shaming is exactly what you meant). I hope my neice, who is 12, never meets someone like you that uses their own success to look down on others. She’s a very tall, thin young girl but I fear for her body image when there are people like you and the media who try to tell her that she isn’t good enough and don’t be proud of yourself. It’s one thing to motivate a person, it’s another to use people own self confidence against them. Good for you for losing your weight. Bad for you for using your weight loss as a weapon against others. You come across as so mean and judgmental and self promoting on others pain, if I did need to lose weight I think I would just feel bad after reading anything you’ve written and be DEMOTIVATED. Good job!

  • Reply Nicole November 27, 2013 at 12:05 am

    I think your inspirational and amazing. I hope when I become a mum, I can juggle kids, family,fitness and work like you. I know your strong and dont worry about the haters. They just cant take the truth. You shouldnt have to tiptoe around the feelings of people who are overly sensitive. They need to eat some cement and toughen up! Keep doing what you do! Xx

  • Reply patrick November 27, 2013 at 1:22 am

    I totally agree with you that we as a society is now normalizing obesity, disguised in cute words like “plus size”, “real women”, “healthy women have curves” etc. Obesity is obesity, nobody wants to take responsibility for their own action, the easy way out is to say “hey, I’m comfortable being obese, this is normal, you’re harassing me!”.
    One just need to google “paris plus size fashion week”, it is SHAMEFUL. The women are NOT plus size, they’re obese, and its being promoted as “normal”, “real”, “healthy”.
    Good on you for speaking your mind and promoting healthy lifestyle, there is NO excuse. If you can sit in front of the computer or TV for hours while eating pizza then you HAVE the time to go out and excercise.

  • Reply Katy November 27, 2013 at 1:39 am

    I agree. Obesity should not be normalized. However it is not just about the individuals. food companies should stop putting out their cheap unhealthy cr*p . They keep building fast food joints whee I live as inner city elites have moved on to sushi , Asian fusion, gourmet burgers with real meat. There needs to be education in schools, but I agree with you. Those obese women in lingerie. Unless you have a fetish ..it made me lose my breakfast. Maybe they have a med condition or genetic disposition and can’t help it. But even as a normal sized person, I would look bad in some of that gear they are promoting. It’s a fetish site.

  • Reply Jacquie November 27, 2013 at 1:42 am

    I still don’t think you get it. You ARE fat bashing.
    According to you (and your followers) it doesn’t matter that my children are thin (yes they are), happy, healthy and adore me. I’m fat so I am therefore a bad mother. My husband loves me…or does he? I’m fat so how could my thin (yes he is), healthy, happy husband love a fat wife? I work hard and devote hundreds of hours doing volunteer work to make other peoples lives better (being the chair of a not for profit organisation) but because I am fat I am a burden on society. Worst of all is the message that because I am fat I do not even deserve to love myself.
    I’ve always thought it on a deeper level, but your comments and the comments of your likers on facebook have confirmed it: thin people think fat people are ugly, stupid and lazy. You can wrap your fat bashing up in a “I just want people to be healthy” package but the truth of the matter is is that fat people repulse you and your likers. We are less than human and our accomplishments in life are void because we are fat.
    It makes me so sad. I am not a person. I am a FAT person, my weight, not who I am or what I do defines who I am to society. You are helping to spread that message.

  • Reply Susie q November 27, 2013 at 3:13 am

    I didn’t see the original post / photo as fat bashing and IM FAT. People are just asses and ignorant sobs. The more hate statements the closer to home you hit. Plus .. Be glad you don’t know these people they sound so hate filled and sad and desperate.

  • Reply Liz November 27, 2013 at 4:05 am

    Just wanted to say you rock and look good doing it girl! You work hard for what you’ve got and should be able to showcase the fruits of your labor. It’s not about being a size 2 or 12. It’s about taking care of your body and not bashing someone for taking pride in the way they look. Fat women aren’t curvy and thin women aren’t anorexic. If you want it get up and do it. No excuses. Keep on postin’ Maria, show your hard work and keep being an inspiration.

  • Reply fob November 27, 2013 at 4:05 am

    Ms. Kang, you are not healthy. Obsession is not healthy, even when it manifests in a socially acceptable way such as exercising. Compulsively exercising and having to take constant photographs of oneself and continuously looking for those who threaten one’s self image is unhealthy behavior–justifying it by talking about people with diabetes is similarly unhealthy. Your problem is mental.

    Further, your body shape is not healthy. It is true that morbidly obese people die, on average, first. The next group to go is hyper-skinny women such as yourself. If you get any sort of illness, you will pass from it quickly. If you had to have surgery, it is likely that you would be told to gain weight first. You are over-extending your body, and your body will eventually rebel. There is a reason why the slightly overweight live longer–and it isn’t because they are “unhealthy.”

    Since you seem to have diabetes in your family, do not be surprised when you get it anyway. A person does not even have to be obese to become diabetic if one is Asian–and, if it’s in your genes, you might delay it for a while, but you will still get it.

    If you want a word for it, it is either “orthorexia” (an obsession with “correct” eating) or it is compulsive exercising (an addiction). You have simply taken your addictive personality and turned it towards something which is socially acceptable and for which you will get the approbation that you also seem to crave. If you would take the time to at the very least look up competent psychological resources on people with issues having to do with weight, you will find out that not only is “fat-shaming” unproductive, it is counterproductive. It causes people to NOT lose weight.

    But, then, that’s what you want, isn’t it? You want “ugly” people not to even raise their heads–certainly not to take selfies which show them comfortable with their own bodies–because it takes attention away from you. You want “ugly” people to help motivate you through your own self-loathing to maintain the ridiculous figure that you torture yourself to maintain–so that you will feel it is worth it. You need the “ugly” and “fat” people the way that any addict needs the thing that gives him or her pleasure–you need the selfies the way that any addict needs the thing that gives him or her pleasure.

    Well, God is good. It is the hyperskinny women like you who die at a very young age. It is the slightly overweight women that you like to shame who will outlive you. God is a just god, and he hands out some pretty danged funny retribution to people like you.

    No–it is not, and it provably is not, “empowering” to people who are overweight to look at people like you. The women here who claim to be “obese” are probably borderline anorexic and convinced that they are “fat” because they actually have a tiny bit of healthy fat on their tummies (women are supposed to have rounded tummies, my dear, not flat ones–it’s evolutionary).

    You are doing two things: encouraging unhealthy habits such as anorexia, orthorexia, and compusive exercising; reinforcing the idea that women with weight issues (which are caused by contaminants in our food supply, work conditions, medications, and depression for the most part) are in some way “weak.”

    Well, sweetie, I put on 60 pounds after being given a medication by my doctor which he claimed is given to women who are compulsive eaters to help them LOSE weight. My doctor told me it was my fault. I got a new doctor and looked it up myself–the medication I was on is known to cause weight gain, massive weight gain, and to cause a person not to be able to lose it. One version of that drug now has a black-box warning on it aimed at teens–if they start to put on weight, they are to be taken off it at once, because the weight gain will snowball and it may well kill them quickly.

    If you saw me taking a selfie and being happy with myself for not gaining any more weight after I gained that sudden 60 pounds (which kind of proves that I’m not over-eating, because I’d still be gaining weight), I’m sure you’d call me a fat pig who has no reason to feel good about myself.

    You know what, sweetie. That would be a marvelous compliment–because if my option is to become a compulsive exerciser who goes out of her way to say hurtful things to others on a completely different website (from which you, too, should have just moved on) or to look the way I look (not gaining weight, despite being menopausal)–I’ll take looking the way I look and being kind . . . and will be exceptionally pleased about it.

    You are a unhealthy exercise addict with a compulsion to hurt others who don’t conform to your own warped sense of how women should look. And, my dear, if you are “hurting” because of this statement . . . well, if the shoe pinches, you have it on.

    • Reply Kt November 27, 2013 at 5:00 am

      Youre right, obsession and excess of anything cannot be good for your body. Never did maria encourage compulsive excersising, eating or lack of. Nor is she super skinny, she knows shes not. Excessh fat, excess skinny, excess muscle is not natural and not healthy. And that’s why maria is encouraging doing good for your body in moderation, daily, until it becomes part of your lifestyles.

      Through evolution and the study of our ancestors it is a known fact that homosapiens are structured to be active- the structure of our feet allows us to run, our diaphragms allows us to breathe in ways animals on all fours cannot, our lean bodies allows for endurance work. For our generation to always rely on machinery, be constantly sitting at our desks/ cars we are going against our genetic built. Excess weight (muscle mass and fat), creates excess burden on our skelital structures. We are made to move, we are made to be lean.

    • Reply Doug Fister November 27, 2013 at 1:17 pm

      Obsession is what lazy people call dedication. Just because you manage to find a way to waste an hour a day sitting on your ass in front of your TV doesn’t mean that I, and many other people, aren’t going to use that same to lift weights and not eat like a pig.

      Would you call someone who gets a PHD as “obsessed”? What about someone who works 60 hours a week?

      Fat logic strikes once again

      • Reply Jackie November 30, 2013 at 11:01 am

        Fit denial strikes again!

    • Reply Robyn November 27, 2013 at 2:48 pm

      You need to read more of her blogs. You’re getting it wrong. If she had the same diet/exercise regimen and DIDN’T happen to look like a model, I don’t think people would be so up in arms about this. Nowhere does she say to conform to a certain cookie-cutter type image. Speaking of cookies, she eats them. She has recipes for them. And in her online book, she warns of the dangers of eating too little. So no, she wouldn’t be calling you a fat pig. YOU’RE the one calling yourself a fat pig. People need to stop playing the victim and start accepting when people speak the truth. Don’t make assumptions about her. Give her the benefit of the doubt, and don’t punish her for being beautiful on the outside as well as the inside.

      • Reply Mark W. November 27, 2013 at 10:46 pm

        Inside, she’s ugly.

  • Reply Carrie Dodson November 27, 2013 at 7:05 am

    Just sent a complaint to FB for shutting you down. xo

  • Reply Stacey Barton November 27, 2013 at 7:09 am

    Some of the comments on here are ridiculous. Obesity is an epidemic all over the world. No one has to suffer from it. There are no excuses. Diet and exercise achieves a healthy body shape, i am living proof of that. I gained 11 stone (i am British) when pregnant with my twins 3 years ago. I am now a healthy and curvy 8.5 stone and a UK size 8.
    Maria promotes a healthy lifestyle and exercise which can be achieved through small changes like swapping your crisps for rice cakes and your chocolate for fruit. Yes, it might not feel as satisfying as stuffing all that rubbish in your mouth but your body will thank you for it.
    I still eat take-out. I also still eat MacDonalds. But i counter it with homemade wholesome food that will benefit my body.
    I am the laziest person ever. But i am walking proof that anyone can lose weight if they wanted to.

  • Reply A Malaysia November 27, 2013 at 7:19 am

    As a doctor i fully support your statement.

    • Reply Mark W. November 27, 2013 at 6:59 pm

      “I’m Dr. Nick Riviera, and I approved this message.”

  • Reply Harry Shell November 27, 2013 at 10:28 am

    As someone who is struggling with being overweight, I welcome it when thinner people, who’ve struggled to get their health in order take “no excuses” positions and communicate them. You have a problem not related to calories in and working out, then she’s not talking about you. YOU obviously have a medical condition and need to be talking with a doctor; not posting comments on a blog as if you are a bellwether for all people who are working at shedding the pounds, avoiding diabetes, and worse. If your feelings are so-o-o-o tender, maybe you need a shrink. Maybe you need to look in a mirror and ask, “Why am I such a wuss? Why didn’t my mom and dad raise me to be strong inside so that messages from the outside don’t hurt me so deeply?” I give Maria Kang props for having the guts to walk the walk and communicate it.

  • Reply BigB November 27, 2013 at 2:32 pm

    Forget everyone whining and calling you a “fat basher”. I’ve been overweight my whole life, I work really fucking hard to not become a land whale. I’m still big, but I work toward being in better shape. Being fat is unhealthy, you should be ashamed, fuck this “fat acceptance” bullshit. How about you get off your lazy fat ass and do something about it instead of crying on the internet about people saying mean things cause you are fat. As a fattie myself I have a much thicker skin (no pun intended) to all the nasty shit people say and if I don’t like it I do something about it. That would be working on my nutrition and going to the gym.. I was 6’6/400 lbs two years ago, Now I am 6’6/260. I didn;t get those results crying about it on the web.

    • Reply Angel November 27, 2013 at 3:56 pm

      Okay you have problems, fat people should never be ashamed of themselves. You are the one who should be ashamed. Why do you think people stay fat? Huh? Because they eat a lot yeah. But they do that because some of them are ashamed. They think they are worthless. They say “Hey, I am already fat I might as well eat the whole box of cookies.” At least Maria wasn’t trying to offend anyone, you actually did it. You actually wanted to offend someone.

  • Reply Robert C November 27, 2013 at 4:53 pm

    I am overweight and I do not want it ever to become acceptable. Its not healthy and its something I am struggling to deal with. In no way is it ok or healthy. At the same time there are many cases where swinging the other way is as equally dangerous. Young women today should feel that a healthy life style is good, but they shouldn’t feel the need to stick a finger down their throat in an effort to look like a model who really needs to put on 20 pounds. So then what is the mean average that people should be aiming for? What image reflects health while at the same time does not breed obsession that can and does lead to death? However having said all that I feel your banning from facebook to be inappropriate. If someone can post what I consider to be an embarrassing picture of themselves on the web than you should able to express your opinion on the subject.

  • Reply JudgeX November 27, 2013 at 5:11 pm

    No one really cares about your over-privileged stupidity. Overweight people deserve to be celebrated every bit as much as your gawdy, awful wedding did. Who gives a shit if some fitness obsessed (and likely otherwise 100% useless) person with a really negative and sour attitude towards people who already have problems to deal with.

    I’m sorry that you got jealous because every.last.bit of media attention wasn’t focused on how healthy and beautiful and wonderful you are, you selfish piece of trash.

    • Reply Lauren November 27, 2013 at 5:38 pm

      Maria, you are inspiring and I think you deserve praise not shame, for at least trying to promote a healthy lifestyle and not rely on excuses such as having children (DISCLAIMER, I have no children), but I have let myself go in the past few years of my 30’s and it has been so much more difficult to lose the weight again, and with a little self-discipline in my 20’s I could have avoided having to do this. I understand the concept of “Health at Every Size” but I want to know honestly how many bigger people are healthy.

    • Reply b.taylor November 27, 2013 at 7:03 pm

      Yes, we should celebrate the epidemic of hypertension, heart attacks and strokes which all stem from obesity. Fantastic idea.

      Let’s all quit pretending as if it’s all right to be obese.

      • Reply Marianne November 27, 2013 at 8:36 pm

        Can we celebrate Hypothyroid and all the other health conditions that can make people put on weight/make it hard to lose weight then? I’m not ill because I’m fat, I’m fat because I’m ill. All this woman preaches is hate towards people of a ‘larger disposition’, She never once accepts that people CAN be overweight because of illnesses/ situations OUT of their control. Never once have I read her spouting disgust at skinny women not taking care of their bodies. It is NOT pretending that obesity is alright, it’s producing a healthier approach to the situation, rather than making people depressed of self conscious, it’s telling them it’s okay to come out of the house and to exercise, that no one is going to fat shame them in public. It is accepting that not all obese people are lazy and unmotivated.

      • Reply Elizabeth November 27, 2013 at 11:23 pm

        See, this is the crap she’s spewing, do people understand that these conditions exist equally in people who are thin and who are heavy? And people are throwing around the word obese, but it’s clear she’s talking about anybody with even a little extra weight. lol! I think there is a real lack of medical knowledge going on here. Of course extra weight adds to problems in the body, but so does not enough fat and too much muscle. Maria is just focusing on weight, but there are so many factors. She’s ignorant and spewing fat-shaming without any real knowledge behind it. And she wasn’t just targeting grossly obese people. That’s the thing. And she even said “Why should overweight people feel proud of their bodies?” I would ask, “Why should Maria feel proud of herself after how she used her success to attack people?” cause…I don’t think she should.

        Also, it’s ironic her motto is “No Excuses” when Excuses are all she gave on why she put out her bigoted posts. Sorry Maria, I wish you well, though I’m sure all this posting and attention is the REAL reason you said what you said. You wanted attention and you go it!

  • Reply Rae November 27, 2013 at 5:16 pm

    Nah. You should be sorry. In fact, you should stop blogging. Why? Because your behavior is not only counter-productive, it’s dangerous.

    You pretend that you’re helping people by berating obese people, but really I think this all stems from your own paranoia about weight.

    In fact, as someone who has struggled with eating disorders in the past, I know how much your cruel attitude and creepy obsession with your body just adds to the pressure many people, especially young people, feel to be thin.

    In sum, you’re a jerk.

    • Reply Lee November 27, 2013 at 5:47 pm

      I’m so glad that Facebook did the “right” thing by banning you. I am a mother of a 15 year old girl who struggled with anorexia and bulimia for two years. It was pure hell. A nightmare. What you stand for is exactly what fuels these types of illnesses. Get over yourself. You are doing no one any good, not even yourself.

  • Reply Christy November 27, 2013 at 5:19 pm

    I just read the article in Jezebel about your FB ban and frankly, I’m surprised. There’s so much on Facebook and other social media outlets that is offensive, destructive, and tragic. Anyhow, now that I’m in my early thirties and feeling my lifetime of high metabolsim slowly dwindle away, I know I have two choices – to do something healthy for myself or to ignore my body. I’m not a mother, but I would like to be one day, which is why I found your original “What’s Your Excuse” campaign inspiring. You show people that with the right amount of effort, it’s possible to be fit – even after kids. The message as I saw it was to challenge and motivate viewers – not shame them. Maybe the bigger problem is that deep down, a lot of us (especially women) tend to demonize people who look fit and perfect (especially when we don’t) out of jealousy or insecurity. Society teaches us to compete with one another and then blame the media and external world for our own feelings. It’s no wonder people are unhealthy! All in all, I think you’re brave for what you’ve written, what you’ve shared, and what you’ve challenged the world to do – get healthier! And even though all the “haters” might disagree, I bet they won’t ever forget the question, “What’s your excuse?”

  • Reply Nagi November 27, 2013 at 5:32 pm

    Hi

    Just stopping by to say I have been following your escapades since Jezebel covered it. I am not impressed. You come off as a self righteous you-know-what who thinks only their body type is the right one. News flash honey, bodies, just as much as minds, come in many sizes, shapes and healths. Your argument is hurtful. So…As someone who is not a size 4 I am supposed to hate myself, not have any pride?

    Let me tell you something special. Listen close. I’m not necessarily considered morbidly obese but I could lose some weight. Does that make me unhealthy? No, not inheretly. I work out, I eat less than I should but it’s healthy. My blood pressure, sugar levels and all other things are on track, better actually than many. Do I have issues? Yes, but it’s not due to my weight but genetics. I have a weak immune system, I have since I was born btw so don’t try to tell me it’s because I am “fat.” I get lung infections easily which makes running basically impossible if I want to breath. Does this make me a bad, disgusting, lazy person? No! I work fricking hard! EVERY DAY!

    You need to step back and stop being so judgemental. You don’t know us, you don’t know what we’ve been through and continue to go through every single day because of people like you! It’s people like you that make it impossible for some people to get gym memberships, because they don’t want the skinny ones judging. It’s the ones like you that make people like me have such issues around food that we barely eat. You are not helping. If you want to send a message of SUPPORT you say “Hey, we can ALL work on ourselves.” Not “What’s your excuse?”

    In my eyes, you’re just fat shaming…Not only fat shaming but you’re gloating about what your genetics have given you. You’re one of those people I never EVER want to be and I’m so sad to see some ladies saying thank you to you. Ladies, you don’t thank your bully. You don’t need HER kind of inspiration. Find people who actually care about you regardless of your size and become fit because you WANT to be, not because some “person” (I don’t want to name call) says you should be ashamed of who you are! It is only through loving oneself that changes can be made. She only tells you that you should hate yourself. There’s much better role models out there.

    To be quite frank, you deserved your ban. Get off the internet, you’re embarrassing yourself. Good day.

    • Reply b.taylor November 27, 2013 at 6:56 pm

      I’ve been an emergency physician for 11 years and I can’t count the number of times I’ve had patients tell me about how their genetics made them fat. It’s not your genetics. That’s a ridiculous excuse. Are their genetic conditions that cause obesity? Sure. Turner’s syndrome and Cushing’s are two solid examples. However, if you’ve never been diagnosed with a genetic illness which was proven by diagnostic testing, you don’t have a genetic condition.

      Do you have any idea how many elderly obese patients I see? Not many. They’re all dead. Quit making excuses and get yourself together.

      • Reply Jen November 27, 2013 at 8:25 pm

        My weight goes up and down and it’s up to me to get healthy. You are soo right about the normalizing of being unhealthy in the US. When I am at a healthy weight I feel like I don’t fit in and people don’t like me as much because I’m skinny. People’s minds are a little off now.

        I love what you said b. Taylor…..tell it like it is; people need it. I respect my Dr. because he tells me the truth and that shows he cares about my health.

        • Reply Jen November 27, 2013 at 8:32 pm

          FYI….I am obese right now and it’s unhealthy. I work out, but have a problem with my eating. I take aspirin because I’m afraid of having a heart attach because my heart beat weird, I can’t breath well at night, it’s hard to run, ect, ect……..I can feel how bad it makes my health. I have a ton of stress and I’m a nursing student too.

  • Reply John Philippi November 27, 2013 at 5:50 pm

    I totally agree with what you said and how you said it, and I’m overweight myself. No offense taken here. You’re an inspiration to all of us. The fact is that any time I feel like getting up off my fat, lazy posterior, working out, and eating right, I can do it too. I know I can.

  • Reply Megan November 27, 2013 at 5:51 pm

    Get off your high horse and worry about yourself.

  • Reply Percy November 27, 2013 at 5:59 pm

    It’s probably best your parents weren’t at your wedding. They didn’t have to endure the shame of everyone seeing who raised such a terrible person

  • Reply Sarah November 27, 2013 at 6:00 pm

    I am so sorry for the horrible comments people have posted. You shouldn’t have to experience such hate only because you’ve shared your opinion and personal story. I really appreciate you sharing your success and being willing to coach others to find the same through the information you share on your website. I have made a commitment to my family to be a fit mom and I know it is a gift to them. It is hard work to be healthy in this often very unhealthy society. Keep up the great work, I appreciate you!

  • Reply Ausilia November 27, 2013 at 6:00 pm

    Maria,
    I have been following you since the post about your picture. I think you are on target and do not need to be ashamed. Most of the people who are complaining are those who don’t want to make the necessary changes to be healthy. Keep fighting the good fight. I find you inspiring.

  • Reply Nina November 27, 2013 at 6:06 pm

    You can’t get upset now about people voicing their opinion of you.

    You opened yourself to criticism when you made it a point to try to make other people feel bad. So yes, you have a right to your opinion that people who don’t work out hours a day are lazy and others have a right to their opinions that you are a vapid, judgmental jerk.

  • Reply Sylvia November 27, 2013 at 6:10 pm

    I think the Jezebel article that was most recently published sums it up well. These issues are your own. Stop shaming women. Thank you.

  • Reply Mark W. November 27, 2013 at 6:26 pm

    Clearly weight issues have been a huge issue for you, as they are for many people. But it’s sad you can’t see the pernicious effect it’s had on your mentality.
    If you were truly happy with your body, you would not feel compelled to chastise others. Your motivations all stem from your own issues with weight and body image, which you are still struggling with. That is something best done in private. Good luck.

  • Reply J November 27, 2013 at 6:29 pm

    Dear Maria,
    First of all, I am really happy to hear that you are able to achieve a body that you find ideal. You have worked hard and no one should ever be criticizing your achievements.
    HOWEVER, I think your approach of trying to “help” people is not only insensitive, but perpetuates the notion that people are overweight or obese BECAUSE they are lazy (or insert excuse). I gained over 20 kg after being on anti-depressants; I used to have a body that was super slender, and in fact, I used to make myself throw up after eating or not eat at all. I was fat shamed, even though I was eating very healthy, and exercising. I have a great resting heart rate (under 60), cholesterol, blood pressure, etc. But I cannot make myself lose the weight even during a period of my time when I exercised more than SIX days a week (cardio + strength training).
    I wanted to share my personal story with you because I think a lot of times it is a bit more complicated. Some people just cannot afford a healthy diet (as I am sure you are well aware of the correlations between poverty and unhealthy eating); having access to the gym and time to exercise IS a privilege. Some people may have thyroid issues, be on steroids, or other medications; some people just cannot afford a lifestyle like yours. I hope you understand that people do not *hate* you, but are frustrated with what you have said and the way you have responded to criticism. You do have a right to say what you want, but we also have the right to criticize you.