December 31, 2013
I received a painful email tonight from a couple moms featured in my 2014 No Excuse Fit Mom Swimsuit Calendar. I felt their words as they described hurtful comments people made on their courageous swimsuit pictures. I wanted to tell them to not take it personally, to focus on the positive and not discuss any specific comments with family and friends.
I wanted to tell them I didn’t cry. That I didn’t feel vulnerable to attacks and that it didn’t hurt when my life, my family and my character was open for public condemnation.
But I would be lying.
I have consulted with friends, priests’ even reporters asking for any advice to help me cope with the instant attention I was receiving. In one conversation with a producer with Good Morning America, I expressed (to a total stranger) how difficult it was being constantly misunderstood. She wisely told me that in this business – people will twist and misinterpret your message to suit their insecurities. The most important thing to remember is your intention.
I thought about that advice deeply. I thought about it when women scorned me for saying I shamed others who didn’t look like me. I thought about it when loud opponents said I promoted poor body images. I thought about it when my comments on the normalization of obesity were taken wildly out of context.
Every time I questioned my pain, I remembered my intention.
Months ago 24 everyday mothers challenged themselves to become their best physical self. This endeavor began before my photo went viral and subsequent bad publicity. These mothers chose to make ‘no excuses’ for not prioritizing their health and braved a swimsuit to reveal their incredible, but unconventional results.
They weren’t fitness models. They didn’t Photoshop their stretch marks or hide their excess skin. They represented how a normal, healthy mother looks like. Instead of aiming for an unrealistic physical ideal, they focused on improving their endurance, building their strength and cleaning up their food habits. The truth revealed in their audacity to show the world homegrown success received immense support – but as many athletes have said before, sometimes in a crowded stadium of applause, the few people who boo sound the loudest.
What I’ve learned in the year 2013 is that while there were moments I felt criticized, sad and alone, I wasn’t. When I stood up, I found people who stood up with me. When I expelled a positive energy, I resonated with people who matched that vibration. When I created a public platform, I discovered people who raised me up.
Don’t focus on people who complain, bully, victimize and shame. When you think of “haters”and how much they’ve hurt you, you are allowing them to win. Don’t give them any more brain space.
Remember your intentions and know truly, you are the Hero of your Home.
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25 moms (plus me!) are featured. I provide exercise/nutrition tips and home workouts.
The moms also provide their tips and before/after pics.
For the past month I have been diligently working with my designers on this project and my new website.
Special thank you to Jaymi Britten for designing this beautiful, one-of-a-kind calendar.
This picture seriously represents how I looked like nearly every day for weeks. I was
living in my pajamas, thinking, sleeping and breathing “No Excuse Mom” everything!
I decided last night to get on my treadmill and run (pajamas and all) because exercise
always relieves stress. Despite my busy schedule, I still managed to train each day averaging 30-60
intense workout minutes!
Please visit my new website and Join the Movement! www.noexcusemom.com
Merry Christmas!!! This year has been an incredible year for our family. David volunteered
with several Team Rubicon relief missions, my two eldest were enrolled in pre-k and preschool,
the baby turned two and I became known as “Fit Mom”! LOL! (this is a family-themed card for those
who don’t see the obvious humor)