November 25, 2013
There are not many things I’m sorry about in life, but recently I’ve been feeling a deep sense of sadness within me. After being blocked on Facebook and reading the Yahoo article explaining the ban, I feel completely misunderstood. While I speak strongly about making one’s health a priority, the very last thing I intended to express was any level of shame. No one should be ashamed of who they are, at the same time, in order to desire something greater, you have to –at some level – be uncomfortable with where you are at. When we normalize being unhealthy we create complacency to positively change.
In our fast-paced world of news media, it’s easier to categorize someone as a ‘fat-shamer’, a ‘hater’ or even a ‘bully’, without understanding the full story. Somewhere in this social media frenzy, I have been called all of these names after using a popular catchphrase on a motivational fitness poster and now for my vent on our obesity crisis in America. I understand the deeper issues because I grew up with it. I witnessed the abuse of prescription pills that helped alleviate symptoms but didn’t provide the cure that living a healthy lifestyle would’ve done. I experienced a hateful relationship with food that triggered several years struggling with Bulimia. I sensed people creating environments filled with comfortable people and comfortable personal expectations that encouraged their poor habits.
I feel a lot of pain.
I felt it when I tearfully prayed my rosary while driving to the hospital because my mom just had a heart attack following her kidney surgery. I felt it when I saw people lose their legs and eyesight because of Diabetes. I felt it when my parents weren’t present on the day of my wedding.
November 27th is our wedding anniversary. Unlike many brides, I don’t like reflecting back at that life moment. All I remember was the morning phone call stating my mother was in the ICU for an infection and my father would walk me down the aisle, but would leave soon after to be by her side. Besides feeling emotionally lost the entire evening, a part of me felt resentful, because whether realized or not, I felt these unfortunate circumstances could’ve been prevented if she lived a healthier lifestyle. Any personal challenge, especially in dealing with health – takes its toll on the entire unit, not just the person itself.
Many put off what is important for tomorrow because of the short-term stressful or satisfying moments they experience today. Maybe one doesn’t feel their weight and unhealthy habits are taking a toll now, but it’s not a matter of ‘if’ but ‘when’ your organs, bones and overall body succumb to the additional pressure you are applying to it. Maybe you won’t be able to run with your children. Maybe you will miss out on special events. Maybe you might not witness your child’s wedding day…
I don’t want any child to cry over their parent’s hospital bed hoping they will wake up.
Because that’s what I’ve done.
I was caught off guard when my new father-in-law offered to dance
with me to “In my Life” by the Beatles, a song I chose for my first dance
with my father. It was the hardest moment of the night. Up until that
point I tried to keep it together but I cried so much wishing my father
was present and that my mother was healthy.
I get choked up every time I see this picture of my youngest sister, the baby of
the family, Angeline. Obesity effects a family, not just the person.
This was our first moment as husband and wife. Thank you David Casler
for being my rock despite my big mouth and unwavering attitude.
561 Comments
Maria, you are an amazing person.
This is exactly what I am trying to fix with myself and my children. My obesity does not affect much at this point as I am in good health and we actually exercise and play a lot together. I know I likely will not remain so lucky. It’s been a little less than a year and a half since I began my fight towards my new self. It certainly has not been easy, but you are such a huge inspiration to keep me moving. Thank you.
Maria, there is not need for you to say your sorry. I am way over weight and I am trying to lose. I check your FB for updates and when I find your book, I am going to be it. I been off the fats, low carbs. and now I eat very little or no carbs. and I still can’t seem to shake it. I have been taken Garcinia Cambogia and I did lose about 4 lbs. I do have heart propblems, diabebte and othe health problem and taken about 6 pills a days. I support you in everything you are doing, you don’t have to say your sorry to nobody, you are helping people. God Bless you and your family.
Here’s the thing, Maria. You stand for something. You take a strong stance, at that. And of course you are going to get backlash, but don’t let that stop you. Like you said, for people to change, they must be uncomfortable. You are hitting nerves within people. But for a good reason. Your posts sting me, but not because I am mad at you, but because you are RIGHT. Stand strong, momma.
Thanks for that. For many reasons. Keep up the good work. People don’t feel comfortable with what you’re saying not because of you but because of what they feel inside of them. Love to you and your family.
I fully understand your pain while reading this post on Facebook as a mother of two i can say that i am living a ” Unhealthy Life style ” as a chain smoker my mother is also a chain smoker ..before i told my self i would never do it but eventually without noticing it I’m a heavy smoker now..:( .. and how I wish i could stop it now .. Just want you to know that because of you and your story I was moved and looking at my children I don’t want them to see me in an Hospital bed or miss anything about them… that’s all thanks again ..God Bless you and your Family always..
You are an inspiration! THANK YOU for taking a stand and not backing down!
I am so sorry you have had this happen, so much misunderstanding and so many people willing to jump to negative conclusions. I agree with you, and as someone who works around many people who lead unhealthy lives, it is very frustrating to see that the answer to health lies within but so many are not able to hear it.
Keep on keeping on!!!
You have obviously made a positive difference in at least one person’s life & that is more than many can say. So, thank you! May God bless you for caring & trying to make a difference, Maria Kang! 🙂
Hi Maria,
I am someone who never writes people like this but to see your pain because you made a choice to change your life is not what God ever intended for you or peoples lives in general I believe that you making that change was what He wanted to cause others to see that you can live if you are undisciplined in all areas but still want success you showed women that discipline can change your life and God blessed that. use this heart ache to grow , to grow closer to God, and to make your drive to help that much stronger you are amazing and you have inspired this prior military, stay at home mom to get disciplined and get the life God wants for my life and the life of my husband and children.so just plain Thank you don’t give in to those who are afraid of how amazing you are. God made you and that’s all that matters. God bless
I heard you were upset. Focus on the many of us who like you and agree with what you’ve said and not some people who may have been confused about what you were meant to have done, or were offended or jealous.
I often find myself wishing my mother had taken better care of her health so that she might still be here today. She was an alcoholic for over ten years and a chain smoker almost her entire life before she died at age 52, leaving behind six children. Addictions destroy families. I am dedicated to fitness (read: lifting weights and eating properly) after losing 120 pounds, and just like you commit to eating right and exercising because of your mom’s problems, I don’t drink or smoke because of my mom’s. It’s not about guilt, it’s about setting a positive example and sticking to your guns in a world that is sadly complacent about taking care of itself. I don’t think we are designed biologically to be hyper-vigilant about what we eat and how often we move, but we have the information now that is telling us that the reality of modern life is such that we must become vigilant or risk life-long chronic illness and young death because we didn’t educate ourselves.
Don’t listen to this crazy…sick unhappy people…they are lazy people who just look for an excuse to excuse his/her fatness….U r an inspiration n example!!!!! those who complaint are people with not selfesteem!!!!! don’t worried for those….U rock!!!!!!
Don’t apologize to anyone. I lost 85# seven years ago without surgery or medicine. It isn’t easy to kick a food addiction, but it is possible. Do we see ads celebrating smokers, or alcoholics, or drug addicts, or wife abusers, who say “this is just the way I am, I can’t change it, so I accept it and so should you?” No! I will not accept people who are obese and want me to say that they’re fine. They are sick and need to take ownership of their problems. I did, sounds like you did, and we’re not apologizing anymore.
It’s unfortunate you choose to blame others instead of being uplifting and encouraging. Yes, sometimes it is their fault, as it appears to have been in your family. But, many very healthy, slim people have heart attacks and problems typically associated with obesity. Don’t blame those people.
I don’t think you need to apologize to anyone! Keep wing an amazing role model to not just your children but many other sane people around the world! I enjoy all your post!! You motivate me and for tht I thank you!!! Xo
You shouldn’t have to apologized. It isn’t your fault if people are fat. If you felt that you need to express whatever it’s in your mind as long as it’s not threatening any living creatures then be it. Most fat people are so sensitive even if they know they’re fat. Oh wait that’s everyone with issues. Sorry for your mother. Keep posting and let others be motivated by your determination.
As a fatty I really like what you have to say Maria. You not only have nothing to apologise for, but you need to keep saying what you are saying until everyone, especially mothers, recognise that they owe it to themselves & their kids to be a good weight for their height, to eat well, live well. To really LIVE life rather than exist from one dirty nappy to the next.
Your feelings about what it was like to grow up with a mother who didn’t look after herself really struck a cord with me. Our daughter sees a Mum who exercises reasonably regularly & eats well as I tend to eat mostly with her – and there is no way she gets to eat the rubbish I eat when she is at school! So I am actually quite healthy. I have great vitamin levels, good (not great) blood pressure, low cholesterol & no hint of diabetes. It seems I know how to make sure I get enough good food into me despite eating a whole heap of crap. But all that aside I am just too heavy for my frame which makes it more uncomfortable in the heat & it means I cannot move as freely as I like. I’m not talking morbid obese btw, just too big for someone who was a long distance runner.
And unlike many overweight people, I wasn’t like this growing up & I actually do know way better – as runner & competitive sportsperson (basketball & netball) I have been fortunate to have always been around athletes, people who really know their stuff so despite growing up with parents who were a little overweight (but still very active – biking, tramping & yachting) I always ate well, always done a heap of exercise, never had weight or body issues…which brings me to the other point you have raised previously…..having the passion to want something more; feeling a little uncomfortable with the status quo. Unfortunately I haven’t had either! The desire to really change has been hard as I am kind of happy in my own skin.
As to why I went from being very fit & healthy to not – it was a combination of arrogance (didn’t think I could ever put on weight so ate the same after a severe knee injury greatly reduced my running for about 18 months) and then post natal depression. As I said on the other post the weight started to pile on (before the meds) as sleep quality went downhill & fatigue set in – despite doing 20 hours exercise a week! Exercise became a struggle & bad habits crept in. Meds helped to sort me out then I incorporated lifestyle changes, but it has been a long hard journey – 3 years – to regain a normal outlook & the bad habits are really hard to change.
But habits are just that so I know one step at a time, one bad habit replaced by good at a time I will get back the old me. I may not be able to getting into the kind of running I was used to, but I know I can be within the right weight range again for my frame & height, that I can live a more full & happy life which will make me a better woman, wife & mother.
So I say kudos to you & everything you stand for. I wish there were more ‘real’ women like you out there – it seems the world is at war with extremes re overweight women & the super skinny celebs.
We need more media to start focusing on real women in a real way I think your message is fantastic step towards that! You have every right to feel cheated re your mother’s poor health & how that impacted you.
This alone should be a warning to all us fat mums out there that what we do, the choices we make can have massive consequences for our kids. I take my parenting very seriously & that includes the message I am sending our daughter re body image issues. While I want her to know & accept that we all come in different shapes & sizes, I also want to know the difference between healthy lifestyles & no – whether fat or skinny (which is skinny fat).
Facebook is stupid, but luckily the internet is bigger than some egotistical young nerd! Ha! 🙂
I respect you for your truthfulness and courage. You are an inspiration.
I’m a latecomer to all this controversy over your picture but I have to say that I think much of this hatred is projection. The proliferation of self-image issues is huge in this country, so to see a woman in shape after 3 kids is a stark reminder to many that they are falling short of their own physical potential.
I’m not a mom, and I’m in really good shape, so your picture doesn’t evoke any such emotion for me, so I can’t sympathize with the women that have reacted so strongly to all of this. I will say however, that you should use this controversy to your advantage. I don’t say that maliciously, but I feel like if you have to deal with all this backlash, you should at least gain something from it.
It will all be forgotten soon enough in this blink-of-an-eye internet culture.
Enjoy your moment of fame.
PS….I’m sorry about your parents not being at your wedding. I had the same situation (both were dead by the time I married), so I know how it feels. It sucks.
xo
We are not jealous of Maria. I read dozens blogs by women who have children and are very fit and healthy. Some have lost a lot of weight, some were always thin. Some blog only about exercise and food, others blog about everything but exercise and food. They are inspiring, amazing women. Maria is not, if she has an inspiring message it is not getting through.
I disagree. I find Maria really inspirational. 😀
Stay strong Maria. I know you must feel hurt by all the people that have called you names. But the friends and family in your life know who you really are. You are a strong and caring woman. I don’t think people understand how difficult it is to express some of their most emotional and painful moments in life to total strangers and not be acknowledged for how difficult that must be. I admire your strength and openness. You are not alone. Many people have gone thorough a emotionally painful experience in life. However, your story because you have chosen to share it with us gives us strength. So stay strong Maria, Your strength lifts us all. And have a Happy Anniversary with your boys. Love knows no boundaries whether your husband is near or far.
Maria you have been an inspiration for all ladies. You’re not a bully, not a fat- shamer and not a hater. Your bravery and passion for this topic simply opens up a perspective on a lifestyle many don’t understand…
I am a female in my early 20s. Been active all my life. I eat healthy: I drink water when others go for coffee, choose fruits over junk food, no fastfood, no alcohol. At 5’4 and approx. 140lb my entire university life, I am confident and satisfied with my body image. While in univ., I was more active and healthy than the avg student… I would be at the gym twice a week, but in comparison to my younger years I very inactive as I sat around a lot (to focus on studies). I was unhappy with my lifestyle. In Jan.2013 I started going to the gym around 4-6 times a week. For you to gauge my fitness/hard work at the gym… a random goal I set for myself was to be able to do 10pullups by Dec2013 (at the time I couldn’t even do 1, I can now do 8)
Acquiring a strong physique and eating healthy is part of my LIFESTYLE. As I live my lifestyle I find it difficult to imagine how someone can allow themselves to be “fat”, how can someone eat fries/ drink pop without the sense of guilt? The biology of our bodies are meant to be kept active, how can someone hurt themselves by being inactive? My perspective of not being able to understand the lifestyle of what I deem to be ”unhealthy and unfit” is probably similar to how someone cannot understand how one can be so “healthy” and “fit”.
Here is my vent to those who have been arguing against you:
Contrary to what many of your critical readers would say, going to the gym and eating right does NOT define a person as a fitness/healthy ADDICT. In comparison, would not caring about your health and fitness label you as a FAT-ADDICT? Would supporting a bigger body image define you as a skinny-shamer/ a hater of good health/ a bully against the fit and strong?
So to those who have been calling Maria a bully and a hater, pause for a minute and think.
But it’s not just media and its images that tells us what’s healthy. Listen to your bodies, they’re usually pretty good at giving you signs if there’s anything wrong.
Maria,
I see that you are very passionate about health and I have to say that I am also that way. It is hard for me to understand why someone would want to live their life in an unhealthy way. I focus my life on health and nutrition and helping others along the way. You happen to be someone that I liked on facebook because when I saw your picture I thought how wonderful! Another person who is passionate and has no excuses in life! As I got updates from you I realized that you are feeding into the negativity! You keep apologizing and for what? I don’t understand why you have to keep feeding into what others are saying about you. I remember being in a time in my life where I was misunderstood and there was nothing I could do to prove who I was. I continued to try to explain myself but the more I did that the farther down the hole I went. I feel that maybe you are at a point such as this. You know that you didn’t mean to come across a certain way but you did come across that way to many people and the more you explain the more people get angry. I have other fitness people on my Facebook. They get all kinds of negative comments and they choose to ignore them and continue to put out positive statements. The people who like them like them and the people who don’t like them don’t like them. You do not need to keep explaining who you are! You know exactly who you are and you stand for something! Feeding into this negativity is making you seem like a negative person. I no longer find you inspiring because of this. When you post something and it goes viral of course you are going to get positive ad negative statements. There is nothing you can do to change this.
I live in France!! and i think that if you were here, you will treated like a hero!!!
Please tell me you are not the mom who posed with her kids as a role model for moms everywhere? Did I miss that?? FB blocked you? I remember the initial post and all the hoopla, but I seem to have missed the rest. Wow – unbelievable. Rock on girl..
H A P P Y B I R T H D A Y, M A R I A ! ! ! Keep encouraging your readers and THANK YOU! 🙂
You are an incredible woman who inspires me constantly to become better, to appreciate more, to love more and take nothing for granted. I really believe that those things that have been robbed of you in life will be restored! Just keep doing what you’re doing!
“When we normalize being unhealthy we create complacency to positively change.”
Don’t apologize! You are speaking the truth that nobody wants to hear but everyone could benefit from. This world needs to change, and only the power of positive forces like yourself can make that happen! Stay strong. Stay mighty! Peace and love. (and Happy Birthday!)
Keep fighting the good fight! I ditto everything you have to say. I’m a mother of four boys, 5’6″, and 125 lbs, and I love to work out and stay healthy. We Americans live such an unhealthy lifestyle that society had created and it is literally killing us. God bless 🙂
If your not sorry don’t apologize, because that makes your “sorry” a lie.
I am a mother of 4. I have lived a healthy life. Always working out & love to eat healthy, but hated my body because people like you. I have never been the Ideal size, dispite my hard work & dedication. I spent so much time crying & praying for god to help me.
In 2006 I was diagnosed with a illness that limits me, & now I am heavier than I ever have been. The biggest thing that has changed (other than my dress size) is my love for myself . I am sexy, I am strong, I love my self, & I accept my self for the first time ever. How dare ANY BODY try to make me feel ashamed for loving who & what I am. If I choose to flaunt my BBW curves I will with out shame. I have every right to be proud of my body the same way you are proud of your body.
It seems as if Filipinos have just accepted that at some point in their life, they’re going to get diabetes. Thanks you for having the strength and courage to speak up. Keep speaking the truth. Keep being banned. The truth-seekers are here for you, will follow you, and will support you. We need your voice.
Maria, you have just lost all my respect for you.
Maybe it’s the way you tried to make your point..
Maybe you could have ‘held back your fingers’ before you lashed out..
Maybe you should have put yourself into the shoes of others of all body shapes and sizes..
Whatever it is, I guess you need to learn the hard way.
Will never be back at your blog or your FB page again.
I’m guessing you’re grotesquely overweight. Get a mirror and use it. Deal with the real issue.
And I’m guessing you’re hung like a roll of Certs.
See this Maria, this guy Justin? He’s the kind of personality that is supporting you. When you are connecting with people like that than you should truly understand the kind of message you are actually sending out. Justin is a perfect example of the way you come across.
I have to say that I feel that you were robbed. I read what they banned you for from Facebook and I have seen much worse than that. I almost feel that you are a victim of being fit shamed or because you look one way, then you must be saying everyone needs to look this way when really your message was one of fitness and health. Yes women of all sizes are beautiful, but that doesn’t mean they are healthy, and it is nothing that they wouldn’t hear from a doctor, but because it came from you, then you must be prejudice. I agree a !00% with what you are saying. Americans have complacent in their unhealthy lifestyles and essentially we have lost balance. From working to hard, eating to much, smoking or drinking, everything is in excess and healthy ways of life is to find balance and health in all areas: mind, body and soul. This is essential. So many people just want to avoid the issue and find the fastest and easiest ways to avoid themselves in the mirror. I know this as someone who has had and beat an addiction and has had to make some very hard choices and come to some realities about herself in order to do so. So when you hear all the negative feedback, just ignore the fit-haters.
You threw a gauntlet with the “What’s your excuse?” line. You are also a model (as evidenced by your modeling pics and this site in general). I can dig, and get behind your reason for doing what you do (sorry for your wedding day, I can imagine what you were going though), but when the general public has no idea of your motivation, all they see is self-aggrandizement. The internet is place where everyone has a voice and an opinion. Sadly those who take to giving their opinions are usually folks who are not very nice in real life either. Also there really are people who just don’t have the time, money, knowledge, motivation or care about how to be as fit as you. I’m sorry you feel like you got thrown into a meat grinder, but when you shout “look at me!!!” you will get attention. And not all of it is good. Its why I have always said; “Rich and famous? No thanks, I’ll just take the money.”
I just came here to say I support you. Obesity is out of control and the level of acceptance it receives is disgusting to be honest. The political correctness in this country has began to flirt with interfering in our constitutional rights.
Everyone that is offended, stop following her. Stop looking at her pictures. And for love of all that is good, SHUT THE HELL UP. Your double standard is appalling. You have her posts and profile pulled down because you don’t like what she posts. Well, no one likes anything you’ve had to say since the “what’s your excuse?” picture posted and you’re still posting. Stop. Let’s all be honest with each other….she couldn’t have offended you if you didn’t let her. And the REAL reason she offended you is because of your jealousy. Stop with the “I love the way I am” bullshit, because you don’t love the way you are. And it’s clear you don’t. If you did, we wouldn’t be having this issue.
Wow. OK. Whatever you say, big man.
For the record– she was NOT banned from Facebook. She was banned from someone’s Facebook page for intruding. She was also banned from the person’s blog as well. And please don’t presume anyone is jealous– I sure as hell am not. See, I LIVED her “lifestyle” for years. And know what I got? Arthritis in my back, neck, and knees and ongoing eating disorders that I struggle with to this day.
Oh, and go fuck yourself.
I think the last comment is the most worthy, Julie. It made me laugh out loud. Though I try to keep my own language clean, sometimes a big fat f-bomb is just what’s needed.
There’s no double standard. We all have just as much right to spew bile as Ms. Kang. She hates unhealthy bodies, I hate unhealthy thinking, unhealthy attitudes, unhealthy society. Ms. Kang’s lack of love and understanding for her fellow human beings, the attitude that there is only one correct way to live one’s life, and the society that pressures people until they develop mental illnesses like bulimia connected to their body image: those things are FAR more unhealthy than a few pounds around the midsection. People like you are the product of people like Ms. Kang: she’s normalizing HATE. That’s sick, plain and simple.
If people are talking about you that means you are doing something right. I am not in a healthy weight or have the best healthy habits. But that does not mean that I will dislike because you had the disciplined that I lacked of. So you keep your head high and let the talkers do the talk while you do the walk. Best wishes and blessings!
Amen, Linda! I agree 100%! It is the discipline that most people lacks to change their circumstances in this world. I am probably 20-30 pounds overweight and I’m going to put on my big girl panties and admit that. If anyone feels convicted of their weight and health issues when reading someone’s personal opinions…that conviction comes from a place of unhappiness and discontent with oneself. I am unhappy that I have lacked the discipline…I agree that it is entirely up to me to change that! I feel inspired by Maria and wasn’t offended by her post. 🙂
Maria you are right about the obesity issue!
I have a 16 year old cousin that sits on the computer all day playing video games. He became obese and had gastral bypass surgery to lose the weight. At 16!!! Has he lost it a year later. About 75 lbs., but not since. Why? his mother keeps giving him sugary drinks and does not thing to promote him going outside and excercising.
It drives me crazy to see his life waste away. Keep up the message to get off our butts and get healthy!
Get on Twitter and Google+. They won’t ban or sensor you there.
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For someone who hates excuses so much, you sure do love to blame everything on your dead mama. I hesitated to comment because I know it will only fuel your pity party, but somebody has to say and after all, despite your greatest efforts to make me feel otherwise, I am somebody. You can whine and cry that fat people are unhealthy all you want, but you have no medical background to validate those claims and even if you did, you are not entitled to demand health, fitness, or thinness from anybody. Live your own miserable life, stop bitching every time someone stands up to you for being the bully that you are, stop blaming those offended for your own ignorance and for the love of all things holy, enough with the pity party. Get over yourself and grow up!
For sure you haven’t done your research on how obesity affects your health. How obesity increase heart problems, the percentage of having diabetes, skeletal problems such as arthritis, respiratory problems, pancreas and liver disease, kidney problems. Many obese people can’t stop until they reach the point in which they even need help to tie their shoes, some of them do break the chain and change to a healthier lifestyle which in some cases makes them feel better, happier, more energetic and yes healthier.
What’s your point? One’s size and health status does not make them less deserving of respect, being a self-righteous, entitled, bully does.
Someone should put a muzzle on you. Wow. Just shut up, you’re not helping anyone, just making yourself look like an even bigger fool. Not everyone needs a platform, and the proof is in the (very sugary) pudding here. Maybe it’s not what you say, but how you say it, and you just come across as a jerk. Really sad, considering you have a decent message, but until you can figure out how to be compassionate, hush.
This is the first time I have read your blog but your statements make me want to read more. I read some of the comments and I am sorry that some people are such jerks. First, a blog is your platform to say what you want. You are not shoving your ideas down anyone’s throat. If they don’t care to read, they can simply not read. Second, you are so right. Unhealthy family members affect everyone around them in a negative way. Some people cannot help there condition, but lifestyle diseases are completely avoidable and we should hold people accountable for their choices. Fat makes you unhealthy and you don’t need a medical degree to recognize it, just your eyes. And your mother should be ashamed of not taking care of herself because she had daughters to be a role model for. When you make a choice to be a mother, you make the choice to live for another being, not just yourself. Good job being brutally honest with yourself and your readers.
That being said, if you plan to continue to do so, you need a thick skin and don’t apologize, even in a “sorry but I’m not sorry way.” People will take offense to what you say whenever you are honest, that is why so many people lie to themselves and everyone around them. My advice, either accept their ire or stop talking.
C’mon, you are a judgemental fool who thinks we are dumb enough to think your hate filled rant is meant as inspiration. Maybe your parents didnt take care of themselves because they didnt want to spoend too much time with your self centered insulting self? You are sick and mean and derve whatever negative backlash is sent your way. You embody the stereotype of cold hearted asians thinking they are superior to others. GET A LIFE LOSER!
Your comment is beyond nasty. Bringing her parents up to her is way out of line.
Oh, that kind of nasty comment is NOT ok, but shaming even slightly over weight people is just fine?? lol! Sorry but I lost all my sympathy for Maria when she put out a message of shame and hate rather than one of change and support. If she didn’t want her life to be picked apart than she shouldn’t have picked apart others. Maria comes across as angry and very much a mean girl. She said she struggled with her weight…maybe she should have struggled with her personality and conscience first. She’s the one who sent the shots out and basically attacked anyone who didn’t conform to her idea of ideal. If you can’t take it, don’t dish it out.
An intelligent person can discuss their concerns without being that nasty. I didn’t agree with her post either, however, I would never verbally abuse a person, and certainly not use her family against her. Two wrongs don’t make a right. Instead of sympathy, just employ decency and a respectful vocabulary. If you want get your point across, try being less angry and not reacting emotionally or doing that which you are accusing her of. Otherwise you won’t be taken seriously.